BY Josephine Sesay

Domestic violence is a crisis that has reached an alarming scale, with countless women suffering under the oppression of abusive partners. Tragically, many women continue to stay in these toxic relationships, driven by the belief that their abusers will change. This dangerous hope not only jeopardizes their safety but has led to a grievous loss of lives.  Every year, stories arise of women who have been brutally beaten, threatened, or even killed by their partners. These stories are not isolated incidents but part of a broader epidemic that reveals a chilling truth, the promise of change from abusers is often nothing more than a manipulative tactic. Despite the harrowing evidence, many victims cling to the hope that their abuser will reform, driven by love and a deep-seated desire for their relationships to work.

This delusion of change is not only dangerous but deadly. Abusers typically do not change without substantial intervention, and the cycle of violence often continues unabated. The belief that “he will change” is a form of self-deception, sustained by a combination of societal pressures, personal insecurities, and the abuser’s manipulative assurances. They are often isolated, economically dependent, or emotionally manipulated, leaving them with few options but to endure their suffering in silence. This systemic failure highlights a pressing need for a more proactive and comprehensive approach to tackling domestic violence. We must confront the deeply ingrained misconceptions that allow this violence to persist.

It is crucial to challenge the notion that love can heal or change an abuser. Instead, we should foster an environment that unequivocally rejects abuse and supports victims in breaking free from harmful relationships. Education, public awareness, and stronger legal frameworks are essential to creating a safer society for women. The time for change is now. Domestic violence must be recognized as the severe and unacceptable crime that it is, and men who perpetrate such violence must face strict consequences. Women should not have to risk their lives for the hope of change; they deserve safety, support, and justice. Ending domestic violence is not just a matter of policy but a moral imperative.